Concern from Veronica
I’m uncertain with this but I’m still gonna give it a shot if you can help me. I’ve recently began dating this person, and I also feel a small insecure dating him. He’s black colored and Puerto Rican so he’s light skinned with caramel/green eyes, but I’m Trinidadian therefore I’m brown skinned. I’m perhaps perhaps not unsightly or such a thing that way, but I’ve always dated guys who had been my skin or darker.
I’m frequently actually confident in which he hasn’t offered me personally any explanation to feel insecure. He constantly compliments me personally and shows me personally a complete large amount of love and love, therefore it’s not him. Personally I think like he could possibly be into a lady whom seems like him. Once again, I’m NOT insecure about my skin and love my brown epidermis, but being with him makes me believe that means.
Perhaps it is the internalized colorism speaking . He’s very attractive so he is able to have woman he picked me that he wants and. It is simply a brand new experience for me personally plus it seems strange.
I might love yourself to relax into your relationship for you to take a deep breath and allow. It’s so hard for me personally to talk with this with any authority as being a pasty, white woman, and I also do realize that colorism is a unique systemic oddity, but In addition realize that we each keep specific insecurities regarding areas of our look. Continue reading Louise Palanker: Interracial Dating, finding your way through a Letdown, employed for Intercourse